One of the most difficult aspects of motherhood is being open to learning new ways of doing things, while staying true to our values. When other people share their (often unsolicited) opinions about how parenting should be done, this can lead to self-doubt about our choices.
There is a lot of judgement out there– people justifying their own ways of doing things in ways that can be critical of others. One of the most rewarding aspects of working with new mums is helping them to differentiate themselves and their values from the opinions of others.
This can be particularly challenging with parents and parents in law who have strong opinions about the ways in which they did things. Remember, they are often trying to validate the job they did as parents. If you are constantly worrying about what others think, or avoiding people for fear of judgement, it might be useful to seek help.
Posted by Dr Renée Miller Principal Clinical Psychologist